What an interesting misperception. After more than 50 years of marriage, I recall some periods that were more duel than duet. But if we couldn't harmonize, we would not be together today, knowing we'd do it all over again.
50 years! That's wonderful. And yes, same here -- I don't think it's possible to achieve perfect harmony all the time. (Ironically, Rob and I have been married for 20 years and he has yet to hear me sing out loud!)
Having lived for seven years in a rowhouse that held onto the stubborn melancholy of a previous couple's divorce, I say let this artifact of these people go. I say this as a nostalgic who hangs onto just about everything--*except* objects attached to sorrowful people, no matter how nice the things are in and of themselves. Why did they leave it behind anyway? An accident, or deliberately? If the latter, there's something intriguingly fraught about the move--and I get the sense they did not necessarily wish you well (though not necessarily ill, either). Find or commission a new little handmade tray to put your rings on, one that you love, one that's made by kind hands in your town or a souvenir of travels together, something that evokes a different feeling and thought pattern every time you touch it and look at it. That's my take!
What an interesting misperception. After more than 50 years of marriage, I recall some periods that were more duel than duet. But if we couldn't harmonize, we would not be together today, knowing we'd do it all over again.
50 years! That's wonderful. And yes, same here -- I don't think it's possible to achieve perfect harmony all the time. (Ironically, Rob and I have been married for 20 years and he has yet to hear me sing out loud!)
Having lived for seven years in a rowhouse that held onto the stubborn melancholy of a previous couple's divorce, I say let this artifact of these people go. I say this as a nostalgic who hangs onto just about everything--*except* objects attached to sorrowful people, no matter how nice the things are in and of themselves. Why did they leave it behind anyway? An accident, or deliberately? If the latter, there's something intriguingly fraught about the move--and I get the sense they did not necessarily wish you well (though not necessarily ill, either). Find or commission a new little handmade tray to put your rings on, one that you love, one that's made by kind hands in your town or a souvenir of travels together, something that evokes a different feeling and thought pattern every time you touch it and look at it. That's my take!